Tuesday, December 01, 2009

Baju Kelawar

You see, as one of the syarat sah nikah is to have sat through a Kursus Kahwin, I duly spent one weekend attending Kursus Kahwin organized at Bangunan Cahaya Suria near Puduraya. This was of course, some 8 years ago maybe? They had a topic on s*e*x by that famous doctor Sakit Tuan. There were other topics too, some useful, some interesting. As in any courses, some trainers were good, some were downright silly and some I slept right through.

Among the things that I paid good attention to and could still remember the ‘salient points’, even the expression on the trainer’s face is how Baju Kelawar can ruin a marriage.

The trainer said, nothing could turn-off the husband more surely than a Baju Kelawar.

Recently, about two weeks back, over a tv programme aired at ASTRO on marriages, Mr and Mrs Host told the audience that Baju Kelawar can cause this syndrome called ‘hilang nafsu’. I may be quoting them out of context here, so disregard what I concluded from the show and just pay attention to this – they don’t think Baju Kelawar and Good Marriage can go hand-in-hand.

Eight years and the message is still the same - Baju Kelawar can end a marriage.

I am no expert in marriages of course, or s*e*x for that matter. I have only been married 8 years. And through the years, things did not always happen on bed of roses, sometimes it was bed of nails, sometimes things didn’t happen at all, never mind what type of bed – pun intended.

One thing I have conviction of is this: Baju Kelawar is not the factor that defines a marriage. It is neither a deterrent nor it is the reason – babies happen with or without Baju Kelawar.

If your man wants to stay around, it doesn’t quite matter what you wear. Trainers, ustads, councilors should stress on other factors instead, like cleanliness maybe? Freshly laundered cotton cheapo humble Baju Kelawar surely is better than a never-washed, stained, naughty Victoria Secret lingerie? Baju Kelawar made of fine silk or satin can be very very sexy too. Caftan as it is called, has made it on international fashion runways. It can be sexy. So can plain batik sarung for that matter. At the end of the day, it doesn’t quite matter, does it? If baju-pergi-kebun turns you on, then by all means, go for it! Kan?

The message that shouldn’t be sent across is this: the husband strays because the wife wears Baju Kelawar around the house. Not many wives can afford a night gown. Kesian tau. One makcik cleaner I know cried telling me that her husband has left her for a younger woman. She blamed only herself, that she spent all her hard-earned money to buy things for her kids and not one good nightgown for herself. Come on lah.

If he wants to stay, he’ll find your weaknesses – adorable, endearing, cute. Even when you wear a Baju Kelawar that stinks of garlic and vomit, he’ll still be interested. In you as a person, nocturnal activities included.

If he wants to stray, as No.5 as you may smell, as sexy as your slip may be, hair streaked blonde, lips the ripest of red, he’ll still stray wont he? No amount of Jamu Mak Dara can help either. But that's another topic.

Yes, I agree that marriage shouldn’t be mundane, it shouldn’t be boring. Baju Kelawar isnt the reason why marriages are boring!

My late mom once said that one shouldn’t be like a novel that you can finish reading. One should once-in-while surprise oneself by exceeding one’s own expectation. I quite agree with her. Why be one novel when you can be many novels instead? Be interesting. Get interested. Be exciting. Be excited. Life itself is ever changing, no one day can be the same as another day, doesn’t that fact alone excite you? When you are not boring, you don’t fall asleep listening to yourself, wont that help perk up your relationship as well?

I say what you wear to bed should be the least of your worry! Go to bed butt-naked, go to bed wrapped up neatly like the dead, whatever you fancy, whatever he fancies!

Baju Kelawar should NOT be blamed for broken marriages.

Batgirl wears Baju Kelawar too. Sexy what!